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8/16/2005 |
by Jon
In two weeks my good friend Ian is getting married to his fiancé' Erin. Good for them. Unfortunately I am not a big fan of weddings, and I got into a little fight with the bride concerning this said event. Rather than bore you all with the details of what the fight was about. I thought I would share the apology letter that several (26 at time of publication) people suggested (yelled at me fiercely) I write on Monday morning to her and her family. The following letter and its contents are completely true.
Dear Erin,
I would like to apologize for my comments and actions this previous weekend, and indeed the many other comments and actions on weekends before that. It was inappropriate for me to change your wedding plans in any way by inviting random people you didn't know whom I thought it would be fun to have attend. I have been thinking about the situation and the grievances you brought to my attention. I should of paid you the courtesy of listening completely to your comments, I realize it was rude to say "freeze" and then make sarcastic side comments as if you could not hear them. You and Ian have put a lot into this wedding and to have it changed from under you is far from fair. While I saw the changes I made as miniscule, if everyone going to the wedding were too insist on bringing four dates, it would amount into a large change that would alter all of the work and love you and your family have put into planning this event.
I would like to take this moment to promise that I will cooperate with the utmost earnestness and effort that I can offer two people I deeply care about. I understand that the weekend approaching is not only an exciting one but also a complicated one to piece together. The plans and e-mails you have sent out where done with care and dedication, replacing certain words in them with dirty words was inappropriate. I honestly only meant to send it to you. I have talked to the priest and your mother already and they understand that what happened was an accident. I will do anything I can to ease the upcoming process and do my part to ensure that you and Ian enjoy the entire experience; it is a celebration of your love and dedication to one another; A beautiful thing that I selfishly and immaturely attempted to affect through childish actions and comments. They were uncalled for, un-needed, and will not be making an appearance at the ceremony. I have cancelled all "special plans" for your wedding and would like us not to mention them from this point forward.
I was honored that you would grant me two readings at your wedding and I completely understand why you and your family have decided to revoke that privilege. My threats to sabotage your wedding were merely jokes, but ones in poor taste. I also would like to again apologize for the incident that happened at your engagement party, as I have explained; ruining the cake was not my intention. However, I see now how I could have been wiser with my movements. I mention these things specifically not to mock, but to outline to you what I did and why I am sorry. I want you to know that this comes from the heart. It hurt me a lot when your mother accused me of being evil; I have never, or will ever do anything to specifically endanger our friendship. It has been pointed out to me that my judgment is less than admirable. After some self examination, I find this to be correct. In the future I promise I will keep my mouth shut and be respectable to your family members and their children. Yelling is inappropriate.
Once again, I apologize, I was wrong and I hope we can continue our friendship with no hard feelings or awkward silences.
Thank you, and have a nice day. Call if you need anything and please consider the bill to clean your car paid for.
Sincerely,
-Jonny
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